Indian Muslims

The web site www.missionislam.com [1] states‘ The richer, English-educated Muslims are getting Brahminised. They havebecome imitators of upper caste Hindus as they live not in Muslim localitiesbut in Hindu areas. The poor Muslims (they form 95% of the Muslim population)live in ghettos and being better followers of Islam, they are left high anddry. Hence they are getting killed in all anti-Muslim riots …Any move toorganise them to protect the Muslim life and property is branded as communal.Any Muslim flirting, if not supporting the upper castes, is called a"nationalist Muslim". The gulf between the Muslim masses and educated richMuslims is widening every day … Names of Muslims who died for India areavoided. A great martyr who died for India like Tippu Sultan is unknown toyoungsters, whereas the name of Tantia Tope, who fought not for India but forhis pension, and Jhansi Laxmi Bai, who fought for her adopted son's heirshipto the throne, is brought on the lips of every Indian …No Muslim getsawards for his contribution to science, medicine, music, art or gallantry.Even those who fought from the ranks of the ruling Congress Party likeMoulana Azad, Kidwai, Syed Mahmood, Humayun Kabir etc. do not have a road orextension named after them ... History is being re-written. ("FalsifyingIndian History", DV editorial, April 16, 1985). Muslims are killed daily andtheir houses and shops burnt. The doors of the Army, police andadministration are closed to them …The systematic and daily anti-Muslimriots resulting in loss of life and property, and above all the sense of fearin the hearts of every Muslim, elimination of the martial Muslims from theDefence, paramilitary and police forces and brahminising of these forces,closing the doors of appointments in Govt. services and public undertakings,Brahminisation of education and mass.media like radio, TV and advertisement,elimination of Urdu as official language from those areas which form thepresent day States of Punjab, Haryana, UP, Bihar, parts of Madhya Pradesh,Maharastra, Andhra Pradhesh and Karnataka overnight in 1947-48, gradualclosing of Urdu schools are all examples of positive anti-Muslimpolicies…Muslim electoral constituencies are divided horizontally andvertically so that they don't have an effective voting power anywhere andthrusting upon them ultra-secular Muslim leaders who have started worshippingHindu idols and such scenes being systematically televised. UnfortunatelyMuslim leaders, who are dejected with the Govt., repose much confidence inHindu masses and hope to secure their help ignoring the fact that the poorHindu (Dalit) masses are as much victims of such a propaganda. And as on thisday only seeds are being sown. The harvest is yet to come. When the harvestreason comes, what will be harvested in India is repetition of Spain, unlessthe Muslims resort to counter measures soon.'

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Islamic Finiance

Scholars of Islamic finance seem to be overly immersed in issues related to interest. Efforts to create so called Islamic finance instruments have at best only marginally departed from the conventional interest bearing ones and so called Islamic finance is perhaps very little different from conventional finance. It seems that the Koran forbids punitive interest rates and interest on basic consumption. It can also be argued that the Koran would justify returns on loan to cover inflation on grounds of justice and equity.
Islamic finance of course is much more than interest free finance. The Koran recognizes and encourages disparity in incomes, in fact the competition and struggle (though not to the point of extinction) is recommended so that society can identify the talented and progressive for installation in leadership and management positions in society .The Koran, however forbids absolute poverty’ in form of poor tax but more importantly the Koran requires parity or at last convergence in consumption. Other words the Koran encourages disparity in incomes but insists in parity in consumption , those who are high earners need to make ‘surplus’ capital available to society in form of investment and production or consumption or outright charity .Poverty is seen as an ill which discourages individuals form the higher purposes of life and hinders the cohesion of the society. High earners need to fund education health et for society at large and this is an investment towards tension free and risk free existence as the rich when they turn poor will be given the same treatment and they or their children will not be deprived .

Short Story 1

THE CHALLENGE

By Javed Rashid

Hasan professed to believe in no religion, he had a hazy idea that being a “good" person was more important than being a good Muslim. Muslim elite and middle class response to freedom, from colonial rule, was initially to equate “liberal” morals as a sign of modernity .Drinking, sex outside marriage, having permissible attitudes towards sex all were used as symbols of modernism. Comics were used as signs of belonging to the progressive modern group .Smoking cigarettes also came under the same iconology .All “in” people were supposed to smoke and drink and have liberal attitudes towards sex and subscribe to Archie’s life style .He did not bother to understand his religion at all .
Partition and the creation of a new country brought about the cruelest of materialist societal structure .Corruption was the norm and very soon nothing got done without graft .This seemed to be the fate of most newly independent states. The early days of independence ,and for that matter the latter periods, brought about wide corruption on small and large scale ,with involvement of the governing elite and the common man .Corruption therefore soon became an accepted and necessary part of the social structure ,greasing of palms became essential for any thing to get moving .Hasan and his like abhorred this corrupt state of society ,they did believe in ‘fair play’ and progress by hard work ,these were idealistic and un pragmatic thoughts of an ineffective and powerless elite .
Hasan drifted along in his less than half baked notions, he accepted little responsibility and had little concept of money .His father, a reasonably rich man, provided a comfortable living and Hasan could maintain his detracted superior existence without doing too much.
Hasan’s serene trouble free existence underwent a serious somersault .His father fell seriously sick. He was hospitalized and after extensive tests, his ailment was diagnosed as cancer of the lungs.
Hasan loved his father and he spent most of his time in the hospital, looking after his father. This required that he spend nights and a large part of the day in the intensive care unit of the hospital .Hasan, in the six months his father lived, witnessed quite a few losing their battle and succumbing to the icy clutches of death. These deaths and the subsequent demise of his father caused a lot a grief but it also seriously disturbed Hasan’s world .His liberal , “modernistic” world suddenly collapsed .He felt attracted to religion , as his concepts could not help him deal or understand death .
Hasan started praying five times a day and started reading the Koran .Very soon he felt the need to understand what the Koran preached .The Koran is a fascinating divine book , it answers doubts as soon as these are raised .Hasan did find solace in the teaching’s of the Koran and it also assisted him in dealing with death .

While reading the Koran Hasan came across Koran’s assertion that “We provide Rizak – e – Halal to whosoever who seeks it “ Hasan’s doubting skeptical mental makeup found this to be unacceptable .He reasoned that in the society as corrupt and venal as his it would be impossible to earn a living without getting involved in some form of corruption . He issued this as a form of challenge to the Koran, he was sure that he would win as it was not possible to exist at a reasonable standard in his venal society without doing something that was religiously and or legally or morally forbidden .He made this as the test case .How could the Koran issue such a statement, surely this was an error and he felt very sure that he would be proven correct. The gauntlet was thrown and unknown to Hasan was accepted.
The trauma lessened its impact with passing time and Hasan started to revert back to his old ways .This however was not possible, as the care free days were over .His, seemingly, rich father was in reality barely comfortable .Hasan inherited some property, which however did not gave him regular income .He got involved in the business of earning a living, in this process he forgot the challenge he had issued to the Koranic statement.
The business that Hasan stumbled into was construction of civil engineering structures .This line of business was exceptionally dirty ,contractors used less than required materials , unfit and improper materials are used ,the supervising officials sought and extracted a hefty kick back .Hasan was even more disadvantages as he had very little capital .
Hasan struggled to find work for his newly established firm .The construction industry is and was dotted by large number of small and large firms .The officials who manage the contracts against which tasks are given out, mostly, expect handsome kickbacks .The main Drigh Road, as it was then named, needed a bridge to ensure smooth traffic flow over railway lines which the road crossed .Aslam Khan the chief engineer of the department was nearing retirement , the bridge contract was his last chance to create the pile he wished for his retirement .The allures of Shazia ,the buxom dancing girls ,also had demands upon the material wealth of Aslam .He ,Aslam , did not expect the usual, registered contractors to accede to his more than normal or unusual demands .To ensure that his expectation be met he required some manipulations be made to the number and class of competing firms . He managed to pre qualify a number of small firms. This ofcourse was blatant disregard of the rules and norms.
Hasan , who one morning, read the notice in the newspaper, applied for pre qualification. He did not expect any results from this .To his great surprise his firm was allowed to quote and to his even greater surprise he was awarded the million dollar contract .By the time Hasan got the contract Aslam had been charge sheeted, on a different and earlier transgression, and was sent on forced retirement, much to his and Shazia’s disappointment .He was succeeded by Sharrif , an oddity in the corrupt department , he was honest . Sharrif was a insignificant looking , badly dressed man , very few people understood what he said as he mumbled at great speed but he was honest to a fault .Along with Shariff the newly formed Government got interested in the bridge contract , this being an election promise , few of which are honored , was important . The fact that there was to be a by election on the seat vacated by the incumbent, who had a heart attack the day he was to take oath, did not hurt the bridge’s cause .All of this meant that Hasan ,who owned little more than a old motor car and a brief case managed to successfully complete a rather sophisticated contact without paying any body any illegal amount or resorting to corrupt practices .Hasan made a lot of money most of which he gave back to the tax authorities , who were ofcourse disappointed . Hasan after completing the contract was only a little more richer than before but in the process he had acquired and fulfilled a contract in one of the most corrupt section of the economy , without paying any bribes and without resorting to malpractices .Round one to the Koran ,although Hasan did not realize the fact at that time

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This was of course not the only incident ,telephone connections , in those days , required a handsome bribe to be paid , Hasan ,for his office ,applied for two connections .Along with his application he mentioned the fact that he was working on a project of “ national importance “ , much to his and the telephone departments surprise he got both connections sanctioned in a week .Similarly pick up trucks were only available after paying a hefty premium or a bribe , but Hasan got his vehicles on the same day without paying any extra amount .
There were instances where Hasan paid bribe but surprisingly did not get what he wanted, people would simply pocket the money offered and not do the undue action promised, a rather unusual occurrence as there is some ethics even in thieves.
There were countless other such examples where, surprising, he got things done without any graft, which customarily required some form of palm greasing.
Game, set and match to you know what .Hasan only realized much later that his challenge had been accepted and successfully defended.

Indian Taliban

The Pakistani connection to Mumbai attacks is clear as the Pakistani Government has taken some individuals in custody on evidence provided by Indians ,The Indian connection is ambiguous. Here are two reports :Telegraph UK reports ‘A Pakistani militant group used an Indian operative as far back as 2007 to scout targets for the elaborate plot against India's financial capital, authorities have said. Ansari, an Indian national, was arrested in February in north India carrying hand-drawn sketches of hotels, the train terminal and other sites that were later attacked in Mumbai, said Amitabh Yash, director of the Special Task Force of the Uttar Pradesh police. India has blamed elements within Pakistan of carrying out the attacks. New Delhi has said the Kashmiri terrorist group Lashkar-e-Taiba, which operates from bases near Lahore, had planned and executed the attack. But the organisational network behind the incident yesterday appeared to stretch far beyond Pakistan and was reliant on help from within India and its eastern neighbour, Bangladesh .All the recovered cards were registered in the name of Hussain Ur Rehman, a resident of a district on the border with Bangladesh ‘www.Zimbo.com reports ‘ .. the fact remains that the Bharati authorities have reluctantly been forced to admit the fact that there is a local connection to the Mumbai attacks. The local connection was first admitted by Ratan Tata, the owner of the Taj Hotel who said the aliens could not know the detailed maps of the hotel–and someone just landing on the beach would not know that there were no metal detectors at the back of the hotel and would not know how to navigate to the top floor without security being alerted. In a five-and-a-half-minute conversation with Imran Babar – [...], who, using the code-name Abu Akasha, took control of a Jewish prayer house in the Colaba area – a still-unidentified controller who appears to have been a native Hindi speaker provided detailed instructions to the terrorist on the contents of a statement he hoped to make to the media. During the conversation, the controller used words like karenga - characteristic Mumbai usage for the phrase “will do” – as well as gathbandan, in place of the Urdu word, ittehad, for alliance, and prashasan, instead of intezamiya or hukumat, for government. All other conversations recorded in the tape are in Punjabi, Urdu and heavily-accented English. Mohammad Ajmal Amir Kasab, the sole surviving [...] assault team member, had told a Mumbai court that his unit had been taught rudimentary Hindi by an Indian national who was known by the alias ‘Abu Jundal’. How could Ajmal Kasab read and write his confession in Marhatti–when he is supposedly a Punjabi from a small village in Pakistan. How could the militant traverse the distance from the seashore to the hotel carrying RPGs, machine guns and grenades without arousing any suspicion. How could a little dingy able to hoodwink the Bharati Coast Guards, the Indian Navy on the most heavily defended real estate on the planet? Evidence is emerging that ] controllers who guided the course of the November 2008 assault on Mumbai may have included at least one Indian national.’Will both Governments come clean Please .

Carbon Emissions

The Koran clearly says that if you do not act responsibly you will be replaced with other species. Get your act together else one outcome in the not to distant future could be extinction of the human race . Stop bickering and act now on climate change .The option of doing nothing does not exist as inaction could result in being wiped out and only remain as fossils for future species to discover

Human societal evolution (JR02)

Human family evolution (JR02)

Introduction

 The family has a universal and basic role in all societies. Family is defined (for the purposes of this essay) as a socially recognized group (usually joined by blood, marriage, or adoption) that forms an emotional connection and serves as an economic unit of society.   The functionalist perspective views families as groups that perform vital roles for society—both internally (for the family itself) and externally (for society as a whole). Families provide for one another’s physical, emotional, and social well-being. Parents care for and socialize children, a function that prepares new members of society for their future roles. While interactionism helps us to understand the subjective experience of belonging to a “family” and critical sociology focuses on how families configure themselves in response to political-economic pressures and changes, functionalism illuminates the many purposes of families and their role in the maintenance of a balanced society (Parsons and Bales 1956)

The family ·is widely considered the "first" institution, the elementary cell of social life. It is here that mutuality is first experienced and civility is first taught. In other words, the family is the first educational institution. All other institutions build on the family’s educational achievements-or must remedy its failures-in evolving the personal foundation of relating to others (mutuality) and to community (civility).The family is always the most elementary mediating structure; its members are the "others" most likely to rally to one's defense against the state. moreover, the family; by setting patterns and providing services for its members, reduces the demands on the state-so long as it is functioning well itself.

Why family developed

Homo erectus learned to walk upright and had a brain much the same magnitude of the modern man. The successful had larger brains and increasing brain size necessitated the widening if the female pelvis to permit the birth of off springs with larger heads. The other consequence was that it required a longer period of growth after birth..Human children needed and need maternal care long after birth. Prolonged infancy and immaturity resulted in prolonged dependency. It was a longtime before the human child could gather food. All of this created the institution of the family.

The evolution of the family in human evolution is a fascinating occurrence. 

The human female underwent two drastic changes to make the institution of family possible: firstly she, amongst all other mammals, altered herself to be able to conceive at any point of time in a year, unlike other mammals (loss of oestrus) who have designated seasons where conception is possible; secondly with enlarging brains of the human infant the female underwent a broadening of her hips that allowed the babies to be born with larger brains. The broad hipped female was not a fast mover or runner which is why their occurred a division in duties, the fleet man hunted whereas the woman tended to babies. Loss of oestrus made possible prolonged care of infants because if the female underwent the violent disruption of their ordinary routines which oestrus imposes, their off springs would be periodically exposed to a neglect which would have made their survival impossible. The selection of a strain which avoided oestrus was therefore essential for the survival of the species.

The loss of oestrus meant increasing attractiveness of females to men and made individual choices much more significant in matting. Together with prolonged dependency of infants and new possibilities of individual selection resulted in a stable and enduring family unit of father, mother and off springs to develop, this is unique to human beings .

Development of Human Brain

The human species eventually developed a much larger brain than that of other primates—typically 1,330 cm³   in modern humans, nearly three times the size of a chimpanzee or gorilla brain. After a period of stasis with Australopithecus anamensis and Ardipithecus, species which had smaller brains as a result of their bipedal locomotion,the pattern of encephalization started with Homo habilis, whose 600 cm³ brain was slightly larger than that of chimpanzees. This evolution continued in Homo erectus with 800–1,100 cm³ and reached a maximum in Neanderthals with 1,200–1,900 cm³ larger even than modern Homo sapiens. This brain increase manifested during postnatal brain growth, far exceeding that of other apes (heterochrony). It also allowed for extended periods of social learning and language acquisition in juvenile humans, beginning as much as 2 million years ago. Furthermore, the changes in the structure of human brains may be even more significant than the increase in size. The temporal lobes, which contain centers for language processing, have increased disproportionately, as has the prefrontal cortex, which has been related to complex decision-making and moderating social behavior. Encephalization has been tied to increased meat and starches in the diet, and the development of cooking,^[and it has been proposed that intelligence increased as a response to an increased necessity for solving social problems as human society became more complex. Changes in skull morphology, such as smaller mandibles and mandible muscle attachments, allowed more room for the brain to grow. The increase in volume of the neocortex also included a rapid increase in size of the cerebellum. Its function has traditionally been associated with balance and fine motor control, but more recently with speech and cognition. The great apes, including hominids, had a more pronounced cerebellum relative to the neocortex than other primates. It has been suggested that because of its function of sensory-motor control and learning complex muscular actions, the cerebellum may have underpinned human technological adaptations, including the preconditions of speech. The immediate survival advantage of encephalization is difficult to discern, as the major brain changes from Homo erectus to Homo heidelbergensis were not accompanied by major changes in technology. It has been suggested that the changes were mainly social and behavioral, including increased empathic abilities, increases in size of social groups, and increased behavioral plasticity.

When did family originate

The fossil record suggests that humans developed their own family system a long time ago, as early hominids, evidenced by the discovery of family groups of Australopithecines for example. One of the earliest defining human traits, bipedalism -- the ability to walk on two legs -- evolved over 4 million years ago. Other important human characteristics -- such as a large and complex brain, the ability to make and use tools, and the capacity for language -- developed more recently. Many advanced traits -- including complex symbolic expression, art, and elaborate cultural diversity -- emerged mainly during the past 100,000 years.

Marriage

The best available evidence suggests that the institution of marriage is about 4,350 years old. For thousands of years before that, most anthropologists believe, families consisted of loosely organized groups of as many as 30 people, with several male leaders, multiple women shared by them, and children. As hunter-gatherers settled down into agrarian civilizations, society had a need for more stable arrangements. The first recorded evidence of marriage ceremonies uniting one woman and one man dates from about 2350 B.C., in Mesopotamia. Over the next several hundred years, marriage evolved into a widespread institution embraced by the ancient Hebrews, Greeks, and Romans.   Marriages primary purpose was to bind women to men, and thus guarantee that a man’s children were truly his biological heirs. 

Marriage is a truly ancient institution that predates recorded history. But early marriage was seen as a strategic alliance between families, with the youngsters often having no say in the matter. In some cultures, parents even married one child to the spirit of a deceased child in order to strengthen familial bonds,

Development of society over time

The Hunter-Gatherer Family: Hunter-Gatherer families were the first form of societal families formed. Hunter-Gatherer families were established by informal marriages in which family members were dependant on one another for food and survival. Females and children collected herbs, nuts, fruits, vegetables, and any other necessities that could be found through means of gathering. Men were required to spend their time hunting and bring meat home to their families.

 The Agricultural Family Agricultural families:  began to form when hunter-gatherers found fertile land and many animals in one area. Food was grown on the farm, and animals were domesticated thus eliminating the need for hunting and gathering. Couples began to have more children in order to create a work force and successfully sustain the farmland. Arranged marriages and polygamy became popular due to the fact that the result was more children to work on the farm. Most children stayed at home after marriage in order to continue helping on the family farm, eventually, this lead to, a very large extended families living together.

The Pre-Industrial Family:  Many people moved from farms to villages and towns and setup home businesses. Economy was struggling during this time. Marriage became an economic necessity, due to the fact that it was near impossible for single women to get jobs in the workforce. Most couples now were monogamous and had fewer children because they were no longer needed for labor, housing was much smaller, and the economy was very poor. However, children were still a necessity because less than 50% reached adulthood.

The Urban Industrial Family: Many men started working outside the home now due to the production of factories in cities and towns. Wage based labor force was established. Men went out to work in the workforce, while women stayed at home to take care of the home and children. Women were financially dependent on their husband's salaries. Children were no longer required to work and had to attend school until the minimum age of 16 .When young people married, they moved away from their families because they were now able to sustain themselves. The family we are most familiar with today, began to take shape during this era 

The Contemporary Western Family: During the early 1960's women began to work outside the home alongside men. This lead to many new family types such as the dual income family, and the DINK family. The birth rate of children began to steadily decline to an average of 1.5 children per Canadian household and also elsewhere in the Western world and Japan. Women were granted more rights such as maternity leave which allows the mother to temporarily leave the workforce in order to raise her children.

The Family of the Future:  Family of the future will live in much larger cities than we do today and therefore in much closer proximity with each other. Major cities will be carefully constructed in order to successfully sustain extremely large populations. Due to great advancements in technology, most humans will work from home unless employed by the government or military. Families will no longer have the right of reproducing. Children will be created by the government through scientific processes such as cloning and artificial reproduction, thus allowing for the government to control the population. Average birth rate will decline because less humans will be needed for jobs, since they will be replaced by technology. Created children will be evenly dispersed to families in order to be raised. Dominant family form will be "NOBO" where children are not related by blood. Family’s goal will be to raise their child to be a progressive and effective member of society. Women and men will be 100% equal in the eyes of the society. Women and men will spend equal time away from and at work except when they are raising a child. In such a case, they will spend equal time at home. When a child is given to a family, both parents will receive time off work in order to help with child rearing 

How Have Families Changed over Time 

only in the mid- to late-18^th Century in Western Europe and North America "did the notion of free choice and marriage for love triumph as a cultural ideal opening the way for it to become an optional and fragile [institution]" thus influencing the structure of the family at that time and into the future   Earlier in history, during the Stone and Middle Ages, marriage was not based on love and men and women had very little choice about whom they married. In the Stone Age men and women married in order to improve the economic situation of their respective clans, then in the Middle Ages and into the 18^th Century marriage served the economic and political needs of a particular extended family group 

As marriage evolved in the mid- to late-18^th Century into a union based on love, other economic, cultural, and political shifts in the U.S. and in other nations were happening that would further influence the structure of the family. In the 19^th Century an ideal of the husband as breadwinner and the wife as homemaker became popular, but the majority of families could not achieve this ideal, as few jobs paid wages high enough to support a single-earner family. This changed as World War II ended and the U.S. experienced a time of dramatic economic growth. The economic prosperity of the time combined with the popular cultural ideal gave rise to family trends in the 1950s and early 1960s that had never been seen before. "Ozzie and Harriet" families that married young, remained married, and had many children were the major family form at this  . The realization of the Ozzie and Harriet ideal did not last long, however. In the late 1960s and 1970s divorce rates rose, births to unmarried women increased, and the average age of first marriage also rose. The reasons for these changes in the '60s and '70s were many: real wages for women rose while those for men fell, the economy weakened, wives joined the workforce due to the downturn in the economy, and women gained access to legal rights, education, birth control, and paid work   This historical examination of the evolution of the family and marriage shows that the family has constantly been under pressure to evolve and shift with changes in the economy, our values, and even politics. The evolution of marriage into an institution of love along with changes in the economy, our culture, and the political scene since the 1950s has meant that American men and women have been able to realize their ideals of the male breadwinner and marriage for the sake of love and personal freedom as time changes.

These influences and trends in marriage, divorce, and non-marital fertility did not escape rural America. Comparing urban and rural parts of the country between 1950 and 1970 reveals, however, that rural divorce rates were lower, fewer women age 20-24 were unmarried, and the number of children per 1,000 ever married women age 35-44 was slightly higher in rural America The changes in marriage, divorce, and fertility we observe during the 20^th Century in all parts of the U.S. demonstrate that the structure of families are changing and becoming more diverse. While there are now many forms available to people, the family itself is not disappearing.

Why Do Families Matter?

Children who grow up with only one of their parents or come from troubled marriages  are more likely to drop out of high school, to become teenage and single mothers, and to have trouble finding and keeping a steady job in young adulthood, even after adjusting for differences in parents' socioeconomic background  about half of the disadvantages associated with single parenthood are due to lower incomes [of single parents]. Most of the rest are due to too little parental involvement and supervision and too much residential mobility. The psychological, health, and economic benefits of marriage for families are due to a number of factors like: the effect of selection (people who are already healthier, more psychologically stable, and better able to manage finances tend to marry more than those who are not).

Kids forced to endure loveless marriages and to tolerate emotional tension day after day bear the full brunt of their parents' dysfunctional relationship. They intuitively feel their parents’ unhappiness, and sense their coldness and lack of intimacy. In many cases, children blame themselves, feeling their parents' combative relationship is somehow their fault. In such cases, staying together “for the kids” is a cruel joke. The impacts on children, of troubled and failed marriages  are : Our parents’ relationship leaves an emotional imprint on us that never fades. A natural part of children’s development is internalizing both their parents. When parents are consistently at odds, their kids internalize those conflicts. Rather than feeling soothed or comforted when they are with both parents, they feel tense. Such ongoing tension can produce serious emotional, social, and physical ailments in children, such as depression, hopelessness, or chronic fatigue;the war between parents does take root inside children’s minds. The strain eats away at their security and leaves them with little internal peace, putting them at odds with their own impulses. For example, they long to be loved, but reject closeness; they yearn for friends, but choose isolation; they will have great intellectual or creative abilities, yet sabotage their own efforts. The external conflict between their parents eventually becomes an internal battle with themselves that complicates their life and hinders their emotional development. Children raised by battling parents have great difficulty getting close to others. Intimacy triggers the traumas they suffered when witnessing their parents’ dysfunction, so they avoid closeness to steer clear of getting hurt. If they manage to establish an intimate relationship, they remain cautious or guarded. When conflict arises, they’re most likely to flee or to reenact their parents’ conflicts with their own partner. Warring parents produce children who struggle with serious mood problems, such as dysthymia. These problems, if left untreated, may fuel personality disorders or substance abuse. At the root of these problems is a profound lack of hope. They learn at an early age to abandon optimism and expect the worst. Sadly, bad marriages cause kids to mature too quickly and lose out on their childhood.

Society evolution

Human societal existence commenced with the basic building block, the family, and from then on graduated to more complex structures .Human beings have progressed to what they are today, primarily, due this societal structure. This structure is not static and is still in the process of evolution .Religion, or at least one religion, suggests that this will eventually lead to the formation of a universal brotherhood, all humans will be included in the fold of a universal society. Technological change is one primary cause of this trend. Technology has managed to bridge the gap of distance. Internet , social networks, communications innovation have connected people as never before .One can follow the lives of loved or dear ones even as the life unfolds even though the person being connected to lives and resides many thousands of miles away .Either technology is the cause of this or collective human consciousness has sought such technology ..This evolution is also evident in main one God religions. The concept of God has evolved from many to One God, and from one who was partial to a particular ethic group to one who was partial to the followers of a particular prophet and finally to one who was oblivious to the cast or creed or color of the followers and good deeds, that strengthened society, were to be rewarded. No wonder that there is evidence that fairness is an evolving concept, although it should be said that fairness as such is perhaps not an evolving concept but the encompass of fairness is widening with time and larger and larger humans groups are being included into this reach of fairness and eventually all humans will be included in the reach of fairness.